Just in case you were wondering...

Over the past couple of weeks of my life, personal and study related, I have learnt numerous things.

I've learnt that support can come from the smallest of gestures. Whether its from something as miniscule as separating with a loved one, to something life changing like telling someone they have cancer. A warm hand on the knee, a kiss on the forehead and a squeeze of the shoulders does wonders. Because even if you might not be able to understand what they're going through, it tells them you're there, it tells them you care.

I've learnt that people can be unforgiving. The saying 'forgive & forget' is probably not one they live by and at times, unfortunate as it may be, its something that cant be helped. Because people might forget what you said, might forget what you did, but they will never forget how you made them feel when you screwed up. But remember, perfection is not possible for mankind and maybe someday when they fully realize this, they'll be able to fully forgive you. When this day comes, lets hope its still in time.

"Sometimes, its easier to stay mad at the people you love because you know they'll be there for you no matter what."

I've learnt that anything can be fixed when/if you want it to. A relationship between two people can be fixed with talking, tolerance, acceptance and understanding just as much as a broken jaw can be fixed mechanically with screws and metal plates. What you need to consider, however, is that would it all be worth it in the end? The pain of holding back your feelings, the pain of enduring a 14-hour surgery, the pain of recovering from it all. Would it really be worth it?

I've learnt that not everyone has the same morals. One woman's guilty conscience may be another woman's innocent desire. What we have to hold on to, to guide us, are our values and how we were taught. Are you the heartless dentist/doctor with no patient empathy and is all about the money? Are you the person who takes advantage of a situation at the expense of other people's feelings and happiness? Questions that you should ask yourself, 'when put into their shoes, how would you feel?'

The golden rule: "Do unto others, as you would have done unto yourself, your mother, father, brothers and sisters."   

Finally, I've learnt that, at any point in life, you'll have decisions to make, hearts to break, and options to choose from. And at the end of the day, everything boils down to what you want in life. You want to be happy? -make the most of things in life, and you will find happiness. You want to be successful? -Chase your dreams and surround yourself with people who love and support you. You want a perfect work-family life balance? -Don't become an Oral Maxillofacial surgeon. Lols! 

Lessons learnt, 
Peja xx